A word about anger
Many people – especially Christians – have very good reasons for being wary of any talk about expressing anger. First of all, anger is dangerous: It usually involves a desire to hurt or even destroy something or someone. Second, the Bible gives some very strong warnings about the dangers of human anger.
I am not advocating the unleashed, unbounded expression of anger (or any emotion for that matter) at absolutely any time. There is a time and a place for safely and healthily expressing emotions. (Like in a field for example…)
But a problem arises when people say, “Hm… the Bible warns against this. I’d better not express it”, because it ignores one simple fact: You ARE feeling it! Very often, giving full vent to your anger – in a safe, contained environment – is required before the anger can be dealt with. Showing it to God is akin to the doctor (God) who is treating you saying, “I think I can help you, but first, let’s see what we’ve got here.”
When you do this, it can manifest itself in some scary ways: Yelling, screaming, mean words; even hitting or breaking something (crucially something that you’ve decided in advance is ok for you to break!). When you let it all out, all your ugly words, all your right and wrong desires – with God and perhaps a trusted friend (NOT the object of your anger!) – then and only then can you truly say, “Wow, God. I’ve let you see everything in me. I had no idea just how intense my anger was. Thank you for loving me still, and for forgiving me for the parts of those feelings and desires that are wrong. Will you show me where to go from here?”
Present yourself – all of you: mind, emotions, and body – fully to God, with no requirement that you “clean yourself up” beforehand. Show your innermost intensity to the God who made you and loves you, who can take absolutely everything you lay on the table. He is the only one who can “clean you up”.